On May 31st I participated in a treadmill walk at Anytime Fitness Albion Park as part of the #Treadasone campaign to raise awareness for depression and suicide prevention with #RUOKday movement.
What was the walk for?
As I put above, the walk was to raise money for the RUOK day campaign for depression awareness and suicide prevention. It was about asking the hard question of RUOK but also listening to their response. Asking "But are you okay?" to find out if the person is actually ok. Australian culture especially have that idea that we have to lighten things up, "how's it goin'?" is a perfect example. The idea of opening up to the real emotions and realities isn't part of the overall culture. This campaign is trying to adhere to that issue, and make people be aware of the importance of having that conversation could mean a person living instead of choosing an option where they will be missed and others left heartbroken from.
Why did I sign up?
First of all I have suffered from depression over the years. This is something I struggle to fight nearly every day and it is something I feel isn't talked about enough. Well not in the right way. Depression still has a stigma attached to it. Something that is pushed away because how could it be a disease? Its only in someones head! Yeah.. right. If you have lived through depression you would know, it is not something a person would choose to have!
Secondly, I have known people- fairly close to me or those I love- who have committed suicide. In some of my very very low depressive states the thought of it had crept into my mind. I tell you, it is not a good state to be in. For those people who do follow through with it, must be in such a desperate state to feel that this was the only way out. I tell you, it is not! I want this to be part of every day talk. That someone who is feeling depressed to the point that they are desperate that they have that discussion with others easy- that they need some help. I want the idea of asking "R U OK?" to be one that is seen to be important and acknowledged.
What was involved?
The treadmill walk was to raise money for the campaign. It was $15 for 15 minutes walking on the treadmill. They gym had people signed up for 24 hours, all walking 15 minutes at a time to be continuously walking on the treadmill. Easy? Sure was. After 15 minutes I felt like I should just keep walking, because it was so quick.
There was other fundraising efforts at the gym, with coins being collected for the trainers to win the most funds, and sponsorship for those walking. For me, I just wanted to do my part of $15. Every little bit helps right?
On the day I was walking beside one of the trainers of the gym, and we chatted about life and things. We took photos for the campaign and encouraged each other. The positivity of the event was outstanding. Something I think should be more acceptable in gyms on a daily basis. Who wants to just walk silently beside someone on a treadmill? Awkward much? I love being able to have a chat while walking. Passes the time.
Anytime Fitness Albion Park and Shellharbour Raised $5399.90!!!
Tips for checking on a friend.
Ask the question RUOK?
Listen for their answer. Dig deeper if they don't open up. "But seriously, how are you going?"
Ask to meet for coffee or a drink.
Open up yourself about things. You will be surprised what happens when you open up about an issue you yourself are having. It makes the conversation open.
Take an interest in their life. (seems simple right?)
Give them the option of contacting you. "Give us a ring okay! Anytime!" Those words mean so much to someone when they think they are alone.
Offer encouraging words or motivational statements. Having someone say "wow! you're doing an exceptional job" can mean so much as well.
Tips for yourself if you are struggling
Reach out to someone- whether it be your partner, a friend, a workmate, family, or someone you meet at the gym- simply by saying "hey can we chat. I'm not doing too well."
Find your coping techniques- mine is walking (funny enough) or art, having a bubble bath, or listening to music. Find what makes you feel calm
Meditation (so many options there)
Go to your trusted GP. They are professionally equipped to deal with depression and have the resources for gaining help and support.
See a counsellor or psychologist. Talking helps.
Get out. Exercise.
Ring a hotline.
Beyond Blue 1300 22 46 36 is a 24/7 hotline
KidsHelpline 1800 55 1800 is a 24/7 hotline
BlueKnot 1300 65 63 80 is a hotline for adult survivors of childhood trauma and abuse and is open from 9am- 5pm 7 days a week
Lifeline 13 11 14 is a 24/7 hotline.
Just to name a few.
There are so many resources out there and in those moments it is hard to see the support that is around for you.
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